If it is hard to discuss with her, because you are gunshy about her reactions or yours, could you write her a letter? Telling her the things that you said in your last post? I would have loved for my H to tell me those things, so that I could really get what he was feeling.
That's because you WANT your H back. This is not going to be helpful for Heim because it is pursuing, not giving her space, needy, etc -- and she doesn't want Heim back (right now). She knows how he feels -- No need to keep beating a dead horse (whether it's orally, written, etc). I just think this is a bad idea, and knowing Heim's track record with his W during his time here, I can 99.9% guarantee it would do no good, if not MORE damage by pushing her further away.
Time, space, detachment, GALing, and patience are the key ingredients.
