I'm new here, so I can't say a whole lot, but it does sound like you've given her every chance in the world at being friends through this. Now that you are giving her what she wants, she wants more. Good for you for not being worked over by her attempted guilt trip!
Maybe one day the aliens let her go and your wife will come back, but good for you on detaching and dealing with the craziness here and now...
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
