I have been told at least 100 times that she does not want to be with me ever. In fact about 10 minutes before we were intimate last week she told me that she would never be with me again in that way. Then after she said it would never happen again to which it did several hours later. Again she told me no more and the next day again!
I have been told so many times to stop thinking of us as a couple that I would be rich for a dime each time. But, then, there are the moments of action that tell me more. I may be reading too much into her actions, but they seem to tell me at the very least that she is curious if I can sustain these changes.
Don't give up. Stay with us and we will help you stay the course. I know it's hard, today I am havinga very hard day because after almost a week in my bed with my W I was asked ot go back to where I had been staying last night. That was very hard. But then this morning, she told me how she missed me at the house this morning. So it's a little bit of give and take.
I am not sure that I would reccommend going dark, but I am not sure about your whole sitch. I thought that I needed to LRT, but the more that I get into this I think that I need to work hard on some 180's.
I await all contact from her, and the rest of the rules, but I am not sure that going dark would help my sitch at all. I would suggest doing what Chuck tells you these folks seem to know their stuff.
On the board Dom R has been very helpful to me....
Me: 33 jacka** whom lied, stole, cheated, and basically treated DW like crap for years DW: 29 kind soul who gave too much to me over the relationship
S7 S4
M: 7yrs Bomb: 10/19 Seperated: 10/24
The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce
