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[dh4320]

Hi all,

My W and I spoke more last night about an amicable split. I am not cutting her off at the knees, but i am not going to make this easy for her either. She tried to get me to agree to more support(financially) than we talked about sunday night. Every time i would say i wont pay for that, she would bring up something in our relationship i did wrong. I think she is trying to still justify leaving. I stayed calm and told her to drop it, we dont need to discuss the past, you want to leave so lets see how we can make that happen. I am detached but its hard to be loving at the same time. I dont like being taken advantage of or being manipulated, so i buried my legs in the dirt and am standing firm on this. I didnt ask for much except the psych evaluation, she still says why do you think i need that, i respond with the fact i dont believe she is stable enough to handle what she says she is going to do, move into a new place, get a job, go back to school and want to be primary parent, she thinks she can handle it, she will fall on her face. Not that i have never supported her, but she has given up on everything she has done were she jumped in head first. She made the comment that she has had to deal with more stressful situation b4 we were married, i said you didnt have two babies. Last night was the first night i did not let her run the show i ran the show. it felt good, and i question myself daily do i really want this whack job back as a wife. not now, again her alter ego has taken over and i now dealing with someone i dont like very much, i do miss the woman i married but thats not who im dealing with now. what do you guys think about the way i am handling this..... input please thank you