WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..

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So,
Is there ANYONE out there that thinks I should go because I told my wife I would to give her some space to think and because she said if I didn't that she was going to move out and file D? I am VERY nervous about either choice.

I'm worried that if I say I'm not leaving that she will take it as I'm not trying, I'm being controlling, I'm not understanding of her feelings, I'm not following through with what was agreed.

On the other hand, I'm worried if I go what others are saying is true about 'lamb to slaughter'. That she is just 'throwing me a bone' about if I go there may be hope because she will instantly have an upper hand and get the house and it will be easier for her to do a fast track to D with me gone.

If the consensus is hold my ground and stay then how do I approach W with this sudden change of plan without it backfiring on me?!?!

I was thinking of waiting until counseling on THU to give the news. It may be the last session with this counselor but the bull**** needs to stop. I'm actively pursuing a new C. I think that session is going to be VERY interesting and I plan on being calm yet very strong. I have to be very careful about what I say and how I say it. I would LOVE to enlighten her and the counselor on what I have figured out this past week, that I've figured out what I've been doing wrong and I need to stop, that I've figured out what I need to start doing right, that I've figured why I've been doing things wrong (drinking & neglecting wife) for so long, that I've become stronger and am rising above it.

I'm pretty angry at myself as well as our counselor. Honestly, I only found DB over the last week and discovered how much I was doing wrong up to this point. Counseling so far has consisted of:

1) Come to grips that wife wants a D and we need to do it if that's what wife wants, deal with it, accept it and move on. - This was right out of the gate 1st session with wife.
2) I am in denial about my drinking, my actions that caused damage and I just hit 'rock bottom'.
3) I'm a 'dry drunk' so that's why I'm not accepting the D and I'm selfish, self-centered because I'm not carrying on with W's wishes and agree with D.

I could go on. Counselor and W have NO CLUE where I'm at or how far I've come mentally. IMHO counselor is just taking sides with wife because of C's previous abusive alcoholic husband and D from him (I'm not abusive at all and I've already quit drinking and I'm actually happier because of it). Of course, I cannot express this because I am in 'denial'. I started going to AA and read the 'big book'. Wife was asking me for months before this, so I started. There is a chapter on 'For the Wife'. After first couple meetings she was curious and started reading that chapter. She immediately got angry and said that chapter was a bunch of 's***'! (You AA'ers know EXACTLY what that chapter is talking about!) I think there are ALOT of good things in that book. She agrees with AA but not when they disagree with her thinking and actions?!? That's like saying you are a christian but the bible is full of s***!!! I know that the road to recovery is a long one but I'm so far ahead of where they think I am at it's not even funny. I am well aware of MANY of the mistakes I have made, I know how to fix them. I know why I did them. I know what I'm capable of.

OPINIONS PLEASE!!! RUNNING OUT OF TIME & NEED TO DECIDE!