Well, I am thinking of how I can get back in, and when I have approached it with her the response has been an emphatic no that I have made my bed and I need to lie in it. So..... I need to think more creatively on this one.

I agree that I can not help if I am not there, which belies the problem, if I run when she needs me it is setting this situation up. Like this morning when she called to see if I could help with S7 I told her that I could not and I am sure that she was upset, which may have been why I got the "i missed having you here this morning."

What do you all think about this verbiage concerning the reason she is letting me be around more and cuddle etc is because we are so comfortable with one another and it is habit? Or what do you make of her asking me if we are still bestfriends and that we should behave like bestfriends. I know that is central to Michelle's work, but it sure seems confusing to me from time to time. I guess that is why we are suppose to ignore 50% of what is said and done.

Anyway, Dom, your post got me thinking about best 180's. I have to think that I am doing the best that I can, I am seeing some strides everyday with her and others in my life. I think you are correct in that I need to stand up a little more and be active in this sitch.

Hmmm... maybe I can schedule a phone convo with my DB coach this week. It has been a few weeks since we have spoken and sometimes bouncing ideas verbally is effective for me.

Thanks again.

Me: 33 jacka** whom lied, stole, cheated, and basically treated DW like crap for years
DW: 29 kind soul who gave too much to me over the relationship

S7
S4

M: 7yrs
Bomb: 10/19
Seperated: 10/24

The worst reconciliation is better than the best divorce