No, I told her. I said I thought that we would get along better. She wouldn't have the pressure and I wouldn't have the expectations. I told her pretty much what I said here regarding the "going first", etc. I said we don't really argue about anything else so I'm taking it off the table.
So what you've basically told her is "yes, I agree, the whole sex issue is poisoning our family life and I'm just going to back off so we can all be happy". To which the average LD person would respond by thinking "halleluhja, he's finally seen the light! I was right all along ... things would be soooo much better without all the pressure! And if he's able to back off that easily it must not have been important after all!"
What you didn't say is "I'm going to back off because I'm really tired of being the only one doing all the work on our relationship. In order to back off sexually I will have to emotionally detach from you, which may well become permanent."
