Letting her know that you have already made your decision to wait and support her decision might allieviate some of that stress.
Waiting is a decision it is a choice.
If you agree with what I wrote, then find a way to let her know that. Especially about supporting whatever choice she might eventually come to, and try and let her know that there is no time pressure to make that decision. Spur of the moment decisions usually bite us in the butt.
Last edited by Jack_Three_Beans; 11/27/0705:46 PM.
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I understand - but am afraid to tell her I will support her decision. I feel like that will give her the tacit approval she needs and will eliminate any doubt on her part.
What I told my H is that if it will make him happy to get the D then we should do it. I also let him know that it wasn't what I wanted. I did that right after I found out the he filed the D papers. That was 3 months ago and I haven't been served yet so, it seems like it made him stop and think. Not sure if that would help with your sitch, but it is something to consider.
Thanks. yes, I think I can do something like that. I told W that I am supportive of her job search and will do whatwever I can. If that means stay out of it OK - if that means there is something I can do to help just let me know.
