Hurtin - I guess I see now that I have to change myself. I think I got "complacent" (God I hate that word!) in the six years we've been together. I got comfortable and there were other issues too (health related). I feel like health wise I'm in a better place and can make some other changes too, with help. After I talk to the counselor, I may make an appointment with my regular doc too.
NNP - I don't have a problem supporting both of us. It's funny, people think there might be a resentment issue. And sometimes I wonder if I'm weird 'cause I don't have that. Yeah, sometimes I'm a little jealous of the free time he has but on the other hand I now see what it has done to our marriage. In reality, I feel like no one would have much of an issue if our situations were reversed. My mom made sure I was very independent in that respect, so I pursued a career that would allow me to be comfortable. I like having someone to share it with.
His contribution (from my point of view) is that he takes care of me and our house. I'm wondering how that sounds to all of you...I think I am appreciative but maybe not enough. He does the laundry, runs all the errands for us (prescriptions, vehicles need work, pick up stuff from grocery, etc.) and just generally is a "house husband". We are working (slowly) on redecorating our house and he has lots of "little projects" going but it's hard sometimes to finish them when money gets tight.
I think you have a good point about being able to talk. I have tried, but I guess I'm not getting it quite right. I too can only hope my husband will listen and want to make changes too.
