I appreciate what you are trying to say. And I do understand that I have played a part in the problems we are having. That's part of the reason for seeing the counselor. I guess I need to fix me before I can fix the marriage and see if he wants to fix stuff too.
But this relationship is a two way street. Yes, I have insecurities and doubts but he is not participating with me either. HE has to be willing and eager too, or it's a turn off for me. WE need to try this together and quite frankly, lately, I feel like I'm the only one who is trying.
I have TRIED to talk to him...several times over the past several months. I have tried to ask what I can do to help him have an interest. I have tried to open the lines of communication about the lack of a physical relationship and his response is always that nothing is wrong and it's not a big deal to him. I have tried initiating things, I AM responsive while he is focused on something else and there is zero response from him.
It's not like he's trying and I'm not...it's the other way around. I'm trying and he's not.
