WAW hasn't walked yet, but emotionally dead

[mako]

After some thinking, I've come to the conclusion that being even semi dark might not be the best thing for my sitch.

I was, basically, dark for much of my M. W and I did our own things, I was usually studying so she found ways to occupy herself. I didn't share a whole lot with her, I didn't plan many things for us to do together...being dark seems just a continuation of that, a "more of the same" activity. DR says do something different, so maybe I don't want to do more of the same anymore.

I understand the need to give W space and not pressure her into anything substantial R wise...but I also feel that not contacting her just lets her know that nothing has changed. Perhaps I need to take some initiative here...

As I mentioned above, I'm going hiking this weekend. This is a favorite activity of my W. I was thinking of inviting her along. Given the above, this would be a big 180, taking the initiative to plan an activity. Also, I haven't really asked her to do anything with me since the bomb, and we haven't exactly been making a lot of progress.

As I said above, I did mention to W that I was doing this, but she didn't really say much about it. Even if she wanted to go, I doubt she would have asked to. I figure what do I have to lose, she'll say no, I don't think it would push her much further away. Considering we're still on friendly terms, although with not much contact, I don't think it's 100% she'll say no, though my expectations are low. One thing I have going for me is bringing the dog, who W just adores and always talks about, at least she may miss the dog.

Any thoughts? I'm not seeing this as a date or pursuit or pressure; just hanging out with a friend--which she supposedly thinks I still am--doing something we enjoy. At the very least, it would tell her that I still want to be her friend and hang out with her on occasion. But maybe I'm not seeing clearly right now, so any comment would be appreciated.