If you miss your chance to validate a statement she says is it acceptable DB/DR to bring it up later. As an example, we will be meeting to discuss legal matters. She said the other day that she tried to get me to go to counseling once. I thought at the time that it was because of the argument over dishes and thus unnecessary. I did not see the greater pain in her life. So, at this meeting, seems like I could easily say that I know you tried by asking for counseling. It was only once she asked but that's what she says was her attempt. Now she will not try because she did attempt.
