I think you are approaching things ok. Do you keep in steady contact with your kids? This is very important right now.
She has not made up her mind....she hasn't a clue. She THINKS she knows. She's fighting her own battle. She knows she is the one who has to make the decision and she isn't liking it at all. She's messed up things big time and is not sure how to fix it. Let her be as nasty as she wants...shrug it off. Women can be vicious.
I know this is hard.....and it is going to get even harder. But for now, keep all your conversations stictly business. Every time you speak to her your voice needs to exude HAPPINESS!! Make it up if you need to...don't let her know your miserable.
You are now the PRIZE doa.....she needs to win you back.
This is easy for me to say as I did not have to do this with children involved. But there is a way.....
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!