doa- If your W decides to stay where she is, is there anyway you can move back? I have no idea how far you are from your kids now, but your kids will need you to be close and to see them often. I think that is something you need to consider.
I agree, if your W decides that she doesn't want the M, then it should be her telling your kids what is happening and then you can be there to discuss it everything. I just can't understand the selfishness of all of this when kids are involved. Grrr...
