Maybe not too complicated to understand

[fightingirish]

im really sorry to hear all of this. I think you need to do what you posted, you need an end in sight, and for your health and for your kids something needs to break.

You HAVE done everything possible by yourself, but she has to be a willing party to try and work through the M. She's is in lala land and is too selfish and self centered at this point to even think rationally.

I wish you hope and strength.

tal