Thx. Yes, the kids are the hardest thing in all of this. We kind of have a reverse sitch -- I moved away and she is still there. The really sad part is that the kids truly believe that as soon as our house sells they are ALL moving to be with me. I don't know what we could do differently, as W says she has not made a decision as to what she wants to do yet - so why start worrying the kids.
I believe that she has made up her mind and is using this period to get the kids comfortable with the idea that the daddy they love now lives somewhere else.
When we talked about finances yesterday I said there are a few things we should not do until a decision is made. I did not say "until you decide what to do" and she responded kinda nasty saying thay yes, she knows uit is her decision to make. I did not reposnd but wanted to say no sh**.
I did tell her months ago that I would not bail her out with the kids. I will participate in the discussion if/when we have to tell them that their family is coming apart and my part in that, but she is going to have to day I have decided... That was a long time ago, but I still feel the same.
