There's a difference between wanting sex and wanting to want sex. My sister has had difficulties because she had a hysterectomy and her ovaries were radiated to death. We were talking just the other day about how her drive feels different to her. She said she no longer, for instance, wakes up in the middle of the night feeling horny but her fantasy-generated drive is still intact. She insisted on getting estrogen replacement, added a bunch of weight training to her usual running routine (muscle increases testosterone in women) and she is applying bio-identical testosterone cream to her vaginal area. Her BF she lives with is on the LD side and it is too sad for her to deal with that given her current situation which is she has to have sex or use a dildo 3x a week to keep her vagina healthy and the adjustments she has to make regarding her drive so they have come to an understanding and she currently has a crush on her new band leader which is cheering her up.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
