bfz4ever

[Heartbroken]

Why the need for him to come in and kiss you??? WTH??? How will he do this once you are D'd as he so desires???? At one point when my H was at the apt and we were truly doing the separation thing (he wanted it) he came into MY bedroom (at the house) after dropping our son off and I just lost it with him. In the coldest tone he has ever ever heard from me I asked what he was doing? Why was he in our room? He was shocked and just left. The next day I set some boundaries with him - he could no longer hug me or ask for hugs unless he wanted to reconcile b/c it just gave me false hopes and sucked me into the drama and I also asked him to NOT come into my bedroom anymore - it was my space... He was deeply saddened by these requests and it visibly upset him. I said you want her, your want my friendship, what the hell do you want???? He did now know... I think this was a turning point in his thoughts...

Your H keeps sucking you back into the drama - to detach you will need some real boundaries...

Contact him only if needed - he is playing the bacholor life already...set up times for him to have your daughter when you can go out - since this is how it will be if you D....he needs to start feeling what D REALLY means!!!

HB