Looking back, I noticed she talked a lot about how fun the single life looked. It became an ongoing discussion, because I said it would suck to be late 20's and have to do the whole finding someone and dating thing again. It's not like college. Well, now she seems to having a ball with her singleness, and I'm miserable...
My W fantasied about living alone before the bomb - I guess that's the same as the single life in many ways. Fortunately for her she's moved somewhere where there's lots going on and she has quite a few friends nearby who are happy to support / include her in their activities.
My problem is that while a lot of her friends do not have children or are single, most of my friends do not live around here or have just had children and are finding it hard enough to get some sleep let alone go out. So her social network is available and willing to support her while mine isn't in the same position. I've also read that sometimes other couples view a recently separated person as a potential threat or someone who doesn't fit in to their scene any more. So it's back to square one and trying to grow my social network.
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
