but once someone has cheated whether it be EA or physical and they have chosen to leave for that person how can true trust ever be regained? ================================================= it can be, is it easy? no, does it require monumental work? yes
It is hard but not impossible, it hurts to know about an op and the details (I learned far too much for my own good) but once you look into your heart and decide you can forgive it can be done.
About the D, ditto what Dom said, don't facilitate it, stall, I bought myself a lot of time when I told him (it was true of course) how i was just dealing with the separation and was in no shape ready to discuss D.
No, not all Ms end up in D years or months later, there are tons of couples who make it, I"m not a prime example since my H was never really ready to come back and his depression sunk him again and was seeing op again...but.. I was able to leave the A pain behind, to trust him, to move forward.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
