oh please dont, do NOT meet her, it will make things 100 times more, you might hear what you are not ready to hear, she might say things just to hurt you, you will obsess and go crazy later as you disect everything that was said, you will compare yourself in every way. Nothing good will come off it, i'm absolutly sure of it, I thank heavens ow didn't answer my call the only time I called her (to tell her the truth, the day i found out he was having contact w/her. Otherwise I'm sure she would've said things that would've been imprinted on my mind for ages to come.
You will find closure when you decide to truly forgive your H and accept that the ow was a sympton to a bigger sickness, your H's inability to cope, a weakness of will on his part. Each time ow thoughts come, remind yourself who your H's is with now, and if your thoughts are bringing you closer to him and healing your M.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
