My dad and C said to not spend any more time with W until she apologizes for what she's done, to not be her friend. Then I read DR and it says to never expect an apology.
Not long before my wife threatened to file (she has not, as yet), I spoke with her and pointed out that she never once apologized. This was after she told me how abusive and controlling I was. I heard this, tried to validate. I apologized and told her that must be horrible for you, I'm sorry I did that, I don't want to be that way for you. But after, I pointed out she never apologized to me. Thus endeth the conversation.
Sheesh, it is so hard for me to control myself sometimes.
I really gotta work on that.
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
