Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

[SirPrizeMe]

It pretty much coincides with the being in love thing, but I can't tell him. I make up excuses as to why i don't want to have sex. I don't feel well, the pregnancy has killed my sex drive (which has always been pretty high) or something else. I feel bad saying that, but I can't tell him that I'm not attracted to him. It would break his heart. I've done enough of that.

I don't know much, but one thing I DO know is that honesty is required for a solid relationship.

Don't make up excuses. Be impeccable with your word. Be honest. Say what you mean and mean it when you say it.

This will be really hard, but it's necessary. It doesn't mean, though, that you have to do it with a hard heart or an intent to hurt him.

Can you say something like "I really feel like we need to take it more slowly. I want to get my head and heart on track. I feel like the physical act of love is not what we need right now." ?

Can you say it gently? And can you find some other way to show your good intentions?

Hiding feelings or not sharing openly - that does not seem like a path toward a stronger marriage.

Of course you have to be careful, when being honest. You have to be careful of the other's feelings. Pick the right time. Say it gently. But honesty seems essential.