Don't act on compulsive thoughts. They will not lead you where you want to go. The thing to do is to take the importance away from her. You must not dwell on her. You must think positive thoughts. I know this is hard. I struggled with it myself. But the notebooks helped me. During the day when he was at work, I read the notebooks over and over. I checked where he used the word love. I checked every one of his answers against mine. Then I made the house look nice, and I dressed sexy, and I bought a nice dinner and prepared it. I focused all day on feeling loving thoughts about him. It is your relationship that matters. The other will fade out of your mind over time. It took me close to a year. We both agreed just this weekend that it would be best to forget the past year. And just pull together in the future. IT is baby steps. Step after step, they lead to happiness.
