Better late than never?

[jon2911]

OK, met with her briefly tonight, she didn't want me to come to her place because it's a mess, and she's feeling terrible. A little disappointed, because we've done dinner, a movie and sex a few times recently.

I told her about the benefits, she says I didn't need to add her. Interesting, when earlier in the day she was crying, throwing up and worried about losing her job and benefits. This is a rollercoaster I've become used to though, it's so important to her to feel independent, which is a lot of the deal with leaving me. She feels very embarrassed when admitting any needs and retracts quickly.

I also called the IRS today about some outstanding tax stuff, and made a step to schedule mediation. She asked about the waiver of service, and I said I'm working on it. Not sure what to do now, except keep DB'ing for myself.

I did tell her that if she needed me to come comfort her or rub her head, just call. I wasn't cool with that before unless our status changed, but this board and the DB and DR books have changed my mind somewhat. Hopefully I'm not misinterpreting that. Anyone have any thoughts?