Yea, we did. IC finally got to the point with his family where he's tired of trying to keep up the struggle to connect with them. It's been a long 20 some odd years for him...and finally he just dropped the rope and walked away.
I don't want to seem cruel or cold-hearted but given everything else going on in his life...I'm glad he did. It was just real nice having my boy relaxed and at ease for the holiday instead of having the tension felt at his mom's. We didn't make a big deal of the day it was just....nice !
It was great to get some Florida sunshine...my daughter said to me yesterday that she has this desire to turn up the volume of the sun here.
Well have her turn up the volume over Michigan as well since we probably won't see much of the sun until April
What part are you going to?
Jupiter area (east coast) That is where we used to live. My parents still live in the area. My dad is in a nursing home. He suffered a stroke a few years back but the alzheimer's had already set in. It will be good to see him even though he won't know who I am He tells stories about sky diving, driving race cars etc.. all from his nursing home bed ! He believes them so we go along with them, he's having fun! but it's just really sad for the rest of the family to basically have to re-introduce yourself to him each day as his daughter
My guess is that IC wants to see the mouse( sure, IC, the kids want to go).
LOL. Yea, the third child I never had IC's got big plans. He's got some buddies still down there and they have off-shore fishing trips (another of IC's loves), BBQ's, and a scuba diving trip planned I'm not sure how this is all going to go over given that he'll be just a week or two removed from his second chemo treatment. I might have to play the parental role and nix some of these plans. IC and his type 4 attitude seems to think he can walk on water sometimes And yes, I'll probably take him to see the mouse
I am not sure why I allowed old stuff to get the best of me in the beginning of the trip. I thought I was beyond that, but apparently not. Hard to ditch fear, anger, hurt. I was really trying to push him away, or maybe create some drama. Anyway, we ended up having a loving, happy time.
I still don't know the jist of all your story...I've tried looking back on it but can't find anything older than like Sept ??
I'm glad you had a good time, although I must say that I was with IC on the hopes of the lovin' in the elevator scenario for ya
My next trip is also over the Christmas holidays, to Israel, for my son's Bar Mitzvah. I am trying really hard not to think about it.
Israel !! Wow !
Miss IC, Ever since your boy first landed here, he's been trouble. To think he made a fuss over Southern accents when he knows I have a perfetly fine Long Island one---well, enough said.
From the stories I've heard..{odd I know, but I've become best friends with IC's old high school sweetheart, she's dating one of IC's hockey buddies} IC's been trouble since he hit puberty
Journey calls Miss IC on her bat phone, the one with the red light emergency signal. "Yes, Miss IC, he's causing trouble again."
I'm already on it Journey, Southern Girl, & Red....any bidding on how many lashes he is to receive on your behalfs I'll keep the duct tape on so as not to wake the neighbors some 40 acres over. I'll take it off when the time is right
I still don't know the jist of all your story...I've tried looking back on it but can't find anything older than like Sept ?
Hi Miss IC, I appreciate your desire to want to go back and decipher my story...I'm still trying to figure it out! Basically, my H and I fukced up our 20 year marriage and we're in the process now of starting over. We both became experts on how to maximally hurt each other, til we discovered we really do want to be together.
Jupiter, huh? Some days I feel like I'm in Jupiter. BTW, my in-laws are now in Stuart. This is why I am still in NY...my whole family and my H's are in Florida!
IC is off the hook for now, Miss IC, due to his excellent post to RHW, but I'm still keeping my eye on him.
Hey, guys, just dropping in to ask you guys to keep me in your prayers. Just having a REALLY rough time right now -- numerous reasons, not just H/M or anything.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
IC is off the hook for now, Miss IC, due to his excellent post to RHW, but I'm still keeping my eye on him.
lol. You probably won't have to look too long...I have a way of stumbling into things.
Originally Posted By: RedHeadWife
Hey, guys, just dropping in to ask you guys to keep me in your prayers. Just having a REALLY rough time right now -- numerous reasons, not just H/M or anything.
Hugs & prayers to you Red...and get that boy home safe Oh, and when you goto that bed & breakfast with the fireplace...take along some stuff to make smores...there's lots of fun things to do with melted marshmallows & chocolate
Pssst...pssst! RJ...just between you and me, that Long Island accent is my favorite
Pssst...pssst ! Southern Girl..just between you and me, that sweet southern drawl is my favorite
RJ, I pulled something out of the SSM dungeon that you had posted to me a while back....
I think you're on to something here with the teasing and unpredictability...you are having healthy drama in your marriage! As I have said before, I have learned that too much safety and routine decrease my desire. I used to feel bad about this, that my body doesn't react to love and commitment, but I was wrong...there is a way to spice things up with the one you love, and you and yourW are doing it! I'm not doing too bad myself...H and I were getting back to the " routine", so in the middle of ML, I just grabbed his head hard and put his mouth on my nipple. I'm not one to show bouts of aggression, so I took a chance, and OMG he was so turned on! Must be something in the air...
Healthy drama.....Question: think back to this love making session you described above...are you there yet? Ok, how did you feel when as you put it "getting back to the routine" (which you said decreases your desire) and then compare that feeling to how YOU felt AFTER you grabbed your husband's head and put his mouth on your nipple? You said how your husband felt and belieeeeve me I KNOW how he felt..BTDT. Just curious to know how RJ felt. How did your desire change, if at all, from the time of "getting back to the routine" and "grabbing your boy's head and putting it where YOU want it?" {sorry, another IC edit from your exact quote }
And recently you posted...
am not sure why I allowed old stuff to get the best of me in the beginning of the trip. I thought I was beyond that, but apparently not. Hard to ditch fear, anger, hurt. I was really trying to push him away, or maybe create some drama...
I know all about the "old stuff" and trying to ditch the past...struggling with that myself but....what kind of drama where you trying to create here? Healthy drama???? How would your vacation, your desire, or the drama... how would they have changed if...even though maybe you weren't feeling it...if before you boarded your plane, you whispered into your husbands ear.."Guess what honey? I'm not wearing any panties," gave him a little wink and then seductively sauntered down the boarding gate to your plane? Healthy drama ???? {maybe a little painful for him sitting in those airplane seats You didn't do the elevator thing, but always a chance to join the mile high club.....trip to Israel soon huh? }
I'm already on it Journey, Southern Girl, & Red....any bidding on how many lashes he is to receive on your behalfs I'll keep the duct tape on so as not to wake the neighbors some 40 acres over. I'll take it off when the time is right
I totally leave that up to your ingenuity. Ever since the "tying up episode" I have been your most devoted fangirl, and am quite convinced you'll deal out the appropriate punishment with aplomb.
IC, Thank you for taking the time to delve into the psyche of Journey...it's a pretty weird, scary place! It was helpful to read what I wrote...it sounds like I had made peace with my desire for healthy drama, but I haven't had the guts, or whatever it takes, to act on it. On the trip, instead of pulling out fun and tease from the bag of tricks, I came up with hurt and anger. Not exactly healthy drama, but it was drama nonetheless, and it produced the desired results, when my H had enough of the nonsense, and blanked my blank! I am afraid to go the "normal" assertive route that Miss IC can take with you ( as if you guys are normal, lol) because of all the past sexual damage...my rejection of my H for many yrs, his loss of interest in me and the affair. It's one big head trip.
Now, Israel is not supposed to be a rowdy, decadent trip in the least...I am picturing myself getting into a more spiritual, devoted state of being, which of course will probably raise my libido in some wacky way.
Overall, H and I are making progress but it is sloooowwww going. IOW, I will probably be on this board to cycle through a few more Journey names.
IC's got big plans. He's got some buddies still down there and they have off-shore fishing trips (another of IC's loves), BBQ's, and a scuba diving trip planned 
I'm not sure how this is all going to go over given that he'll be just a week or two removed from his second chemo treatment. I might have to play the parental role and nix some of these plans. IC and his type 4 attitude seems to think he can walk on water sometimes And yes, I'll probably take him to see the mouse 
Oh, and when you goto that bed & breakfast with the fireplace...take along some stuff to make smores...there's lots of fun things to do with melted marshmallows & chocolate 
