Seperated

[Dom R]

He said he had finally found a really good friend and he did not want to tell me cos i would stop his friendship.

Now in all honesty one does not leave ones wife for a "best" friend or send 40-50 text messages to someone you work with all day. After c he told me he despised me and i did not reply.

basically, seems like he is just playing at counselling, and will say whatever he thinks it will take, to make the counsellor not label him "the bad guy". But outside of counselling, he has no problems being the bad guy, in his heart.

He sounds like a little child, smiling and saying, "I didnt MEAN to hurt my sister..." in front of the parents, but when they're gone, saying "I hate you" to her.

[why is he even going, really?]

Most of the posts describe that people get back together only to separate a couple of months or years later.

not sure what posts YOU are talking about. but I've heard of the phenomenon.

it happens when people think "ok, glad THAT's over".. and just go back to old habits when "the crisis is over". Kinda like people going on crash diets, to lose [some number of pounds]... being happy for a while... but eventually putting it all back on again, when they stop the crazy diet.

The positive relationship will only come back, and STAY back... when the people involved make a decision to do what it takes to nurture their relationship, for /the rest of their lives/.

In every situation i've read about separation afterwords, it has always been, "... and things were great. but then we stopped doing [the things that made us happy together], and ended up in a mess again".

So.. simple solution. Keep doing the things that make you happy together

Once you can find them, that is.



trust can be regained. If you love someone, you will find yourself willing to give them another chance. The only question is whether they care enough to try to rebuild it.