Piecing is VERY, VERY hard. I have found piecing way harder than when we were separated. It takes a lot of patience. A lot of understanding. A lot of learning. A lot of soul searching.
Your W is likely working through her own things right now. The best thing you can do right now is give her the space to do so. I know it's killing you. And the hope/goal is for you and your W to reconnect emotinoally and physicially. But now is not that time. You and she are both working towards that goal.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track