an xh, his FF, Thanksgiving, MIL, and one psuedo-R

[Dom R]

He thinks I am trying to manipulate him because I am being forceful. He has this problem, in general. (Yes, I know, that's his problem, not mine.) The trick is to say things in a gentler way. Although, it doesn't seem to be working...

well ya know what michelle would say. stop doing what doesnt work, and keep doing what is working.

What's been working for ya lately?

PS: i wouldnt entirely say that him complainig that you are "being manipulative" is his problem.
It's probably a good idea to ask HIM, what the difference is,between "being manipulative", and "standing up for better treatment for yourself".
Then perhaps that might give you an idea on how to reframe things.
If on the other hand, he cant tell you the difference, then you know he's just blowing smoke in your eyes about "being manipulative".