Im torn as to whether or not I call W to make small talk and try and meet some of her emotional needs (Plan A).
NoNoNo,
Only call when you have too. thisis hard I know. but you will see. When you do talk she will want to make the conversation last. There is a very fine line between going dark and closing thedoor. YOU DO NOT WANT TO CLOSE THE DOOR. Yo need to take care of you own emotinal needs before you worry about hers. You can not fix her. By helping yourself you will be in a better place to help her when and if she askes. Let the OM be the needy person. it will grow old fast. The thing is in the begining when I would call W just to say Hi. She was anoyed and gave short ansers. So I stopped. Now she calls me to ask something and then trys to lead into "small talk"
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
