WAW staying, I'm leaving to give her space..

[Dom R]

1) Should I bring up the subject of dating during sep?

what for?

if she wants to date, she's going to. odds are, she's already started. nothing you can do about that. That whole "have to take wedding ring off for work"? oh please. It may not be for dating purposes. But there is almost no legitimate line of work, that would require someone to take off a wedding ring, all of a sudden. Unless maybe she's a stripper.
is your wife moonlighting as a stripper?

If she didnt need it off a year ago, she doesnt "need" it off now.
But that's not the main point. Here it is:


A counsellor once told me, "dont waste time asking pointless questions of your spouse".

This sounds like it fits in that category. it would only give her something to "fight" against. There's no realistic expectation of good coming from it, reguardless of what you might LIKE to come out of it. true?

2) Do we set any goals for her to work on or R or just mention goals for myself and leave it at that? I figured that this may be better left to MC or IC.

I personally dont think that stating goals for yourself would hurt any.
Might even do some good

3) Should I readdress how I feel before I go one last time and how should I go about that? I just wanted to tell her one last time that I wished there was a way to make things better without having to leave.

err.. you dont "have to leave". leaving probably wont make things better, either.

Either way, she's not going to help you "make things better". she wants out; she's not going to help you figure out how to make things better. You're going to have to figure that out yourself.