I can't understand this situation as actually, "piecing", but maybe that's what it is. I never spent time over here after reconciling with my XW. But I find it hard to imagine piecing without the ILYs or sleeping together. I wouldn't have even tried to piece without the feelings being there. If there is no intimacy, it's hard to envision that the feelings are there. How do the others on this site deal with that?

manwithaheart, I think you had every reason to be upset. Obviously you handled it poorly, but I would find her explanation hard to swallow.

P.S. I think you need to focus on yourself and your own growth for now. As long as she's not completely "in it", I would proceed as though she isn't and look after some of my own needs.

Last edited by Just_Me; 11/26/07 09:46 PM.
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