I think you are doing fantastic! You and I are in a similar situation and should keep in touch.
Just returned from a 5 day weekend with my W and daughter. Went very well.
While we did not make love, we did talk about it. She said she thought it would be a bad idea.
We did sleep in the same bed, which is absolutely amazing to me considering where we were 7 weeks ago. Did some hugging and kissing, but nothing more.
Right now, like you, we are at a standstill.
Says she has a lot of decisions to make, is not ready for me to move into the house and never wants to be miserable again. I told her that the idea was to start a new life togehter.
This is really hard. The 5 day weekend was very tricky.