The acting as if I was refering to was in your attitude to her, acting as if everything is ok, showing in away that you are going to be ok. That you aren't mad with her...that kind of thing. As far as things go with the kids, I feel if you are seperated its better to have some set things in place. But ulitmatley its up to you, as you know the situation best, what we say here is primarily to do with your relationship with your spouse.
You have to decided whats best for your kids and you right now
Me - 44 H - 44 M - 19yrs together - 23yrs D16 S8 EA/PA - Bomb Oct20/06 Jan 8/07 Feb 01/07 Jul 15/07 H still @ home Recovered!