One question - Have you told her that you're on strike? If you have, then great!
If you haven't (and I assume you haven't, due to the "I'm just venting" statement), then it's just another passive aggressive way of proving to yourself that she's the bad guy and you're the good guy. BTDT.
Still, I totally get where you're coming from. Wish I had some great suggestions for you, but, other than the usual (GAL, Read the books, etc.) there is no magic key.
