The Thanksgiving break was awesome. We started off by going to church on Sunday, which is something I enjoy, but I don't like to push my H to go more than he cares to (about 1x month). Despite the rowdy kids (ours:), it was fun and we had brunch at a local restaurant.
The whole week was filled with family activities, such as going to the park, working in the yard, hanging out in the family room, and playing with the kids. I was worried, at first, that a whole week in the house with the kids would drive H insane (his impatience with the kids was a "sign" that I ignored pre-crisis, and it really reached its height during the crisis period, with him having very little fun interaction with them, just yelling), but he was so wonderful and patient with the kids; we all really had a blast.
He was also increasingly affectionate and playful with me. Still no R talks and still no ILYs, but I am content that the week was practically stress-free, we MLd a couple of times, and H made a true effort to accomodate me when I expressed a need/desire that I had. Previously, I have been reluctant to express needs, and I often would deflect onto another event (e.g. H would not thank me for the supper, and I would later get mad for a trifle). Now I really try to say "You know, normally I would ignore this and let it bother me and mutate into something else, but I am going to tell you so that I can be honest about what I am feeling with you." The first time, I was terrified lest I come off as pushing or pursuing, but H has really responded to my being straightforward.
I am worried that the holiday magic will disappear now that we are back to the normal work routine today, but I am going to "as if" my butt off when I arrive today to see if I can keep it going;)
