Plank removed from eye, too late for WAW? 8

[Pudmuddle]

Oh Heimy.

I have to say I agree with Puddle...do you really have no clue? After all this?

Originally Posted By: Heimlich
I have no clue how we got from last January her telling me she didn't want to lose me to late Winter/Spring us buying things for the house together to the ILBNILWY speech to now, where I can't even ask a simple question about something interesting that she did.

Heim, do you really have no clue?

Originally Posted By: Heimlich
Who the hell is she to have made these decisions without sharing her feelings with me -- after all, all I did was give her all the love that I had and knew how to give at the time, with her telling me she was happy/OK with the way things were between us and that they were getting better -- all the way up until she decided to leave.

Hello, anger! Is this new, Heim? Have you not been angry sometime since this started? I'm asking because I wonder whether it's also part of you moving forward.

Before I came here, I remember my H being disconnected from me for two years(if not longer), claiming he could never forgive me for the things I HAD done, when he had never turned inside himself to REALLY examine himself and see how he had contributed. It took both of us to make the family tree fall. He too, felt like he had done all he could to fix things. But he really hadn't. You can see in my posts now how that changed dramatically when he allowed himself to ask for help, for forgiveness for himself and for me, and turn inside himself and want to change for HIM. I now admire him for wanting to change himself and make his life better. That has made me love him more strongly than before. No, it's not perfection, but I don't want that either. That is how your W would see you, if you ALLOWED yourself to do that. We can't all solve our problems by ourselves, sometimes its ok to ask for help. It's not a sign of weakness, but one of great character to build a better you.

Sometimes I get an icky vibe from your posts that you are still blaming her for a lot of things. I could be wrong. But I know this vibe from H made me feel absolutely awful inside. I used to look in his eyes and see nothing but empty darkness and that was scary as heck.

Just some thoughts I had while reading your latest.