Sorry you had to come here, like the rest of us, but you are in good hands!
I think most people here would tell you not to force anything. It sounds like YOU want to save your marriage, so pick that path and stick to it.
Patience is the name of this game, not that anyone asked if you wanted to play...
I would say that you have a lot of positives on your side to help you through this maddening journey. Your W needs to be faced with the realities of the situation she is causing. By leaving her alone to realize these, she will come to this conclusion faster than if you force it for her. That will make her want to run away that much more.
She has already pushed some serious painful steps your way, like changing the locks and keeping you out of HER castle. Right now she is extremely confused and as we like to call them on here, ALIEN, so nothing she says or does right now will make any common sense. Just bide your time, if she insists on moving forward, telling her this happened suddenly and you are still processing all what it means. She needs that time too, to realize the full effects of what she is doing and right now, SHE CANNOT SEE THAT.
Patience IS key, patience is your best friend right now.
And keep coming here to post and get thoughts out. It does help.
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
