WAW says "I'm filing for D", but no papers

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Sir,

Sorry that you find yourself here, there are good people here to help you out, sometimes its hard to answer people right away!

I think all the things your wife is spewing at you about your what you are like, is so that she can justify in her mind what she is doing, she is feeling guilty, but its easier to lash out at you instead of taking a good hard look at herself.
She is obviously very confused, and this is the reason for all the waffling and mixed signals.
If you want your marriage back, that you will have to be patient, and giver her space.
The best thing to do right now if focus on you, gal, and act as if. It does help whatever the outcome of your marriage.
And do keep posting, because it does help just to get alot of this stuff out of your head!