Originally Posted By: Pudmuddle snafu
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All the way home I'm thinking about the text I'm going to send giving me a piece of my mind. PM is sitting on my shoulder telling me to give it 48 hours. H calls as I'm getting off of the highway. I apologize for interupting his fun evening w/ friend. H says I didn't and I express that I felt I was. We discussed the sitch and all is ok. Glad I didn't send the text. PM is so freaking wise!


You are so funny! LOL, I can see that even through your stress you are maintaining a positive attitude and sense of humor! I can't tell you how many times I've thought about how I would have reacted to something in the past that H said, and now I do it so much more calmly.

All of your latest posts, lizzy, seem to be headed down a path of goodness. He IS hanging around much more and teasing you more which shows he definitely feels better around you. And try hard not think about what friends tell you especially ones that are on a different path. Of course, they want you to see it their way, so you can both sympathize...Choose the path you want and make it so...and you are already doing that.

Some people's spouses going on their journey just take a little longer to come back down to earth. I believe in my case, it was just chance, maybe because my H and I had already been going through this for so long(before I came here), and also because he came to a realization faster on his own than some do. (Plus his OW was F.I.N.E. as he put it.... = Effed Up, Insecure, Neurotic and Emotional). So I had that to my advantage in that he saw me changing and that I was so nice to be around again...that he wanted some of that. So keep that PM on your shoulder if it helps!

You are on your way. Keep the patience strong girlfriend!


Thanks PM. I need you on my shoulder today. Having a really down day. Talked to FIL today who had talked to H earlier in the day. H finally told him about the S, but said it has been 2 weeks when it has been 4. Don't know if he realizes how long it has been or not. Anyway, H didn't indicate to FIL that there was any hope of working things out. I know do not believe what your hear or 50% of what they do. It is just so hard to remember that today. Just trying to make it till the end of the work day. I really want to be curled up in bed right now.


Me: 41
H: 42
DDs: 10 & 15
M: 19yrs.
Bomb: June 2007
Separated:10/28/07
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