FLTC: from Iraq; Continued

[COG]

FLTC,

I guess we all want our spouses back, but don't want what we HAD.

Excellent, well put. Your W will NEVER get "back" together. It's something completely new, or nothing.

I feel like a failure, because the should'a ,would'a ,could'a sometimes eats me alive.

Good. It should eat you alive, because you WERE a failure. YOU helped destroy your family. Don't ever forget that my brother, and don't let anyone elses failures allow yourself to transfer the responsibility.

But you know what, my wife has some serious issues too.

So now it's your choice, cut and run, or stand and fight?

You are a good man, one who made mistakes. Just like MANY of us. Forgive yourself, and move forward with your life, but move forward in peace, in love, and in forgiveness; not because you have no other choice.

When the actions of your W do not affect the love, joy, and peace in your heart, then you'll know you've made it.

God Bless,

COG