The answer was staring me in the face all the time

[MaxP]

What do you do when the other person doesn't want to meet up with any regularity, and even then retains complete control of the circumstances? (i.e. always at home, always time bound by her, always about some formal issue). It feels like there is no platform to rebuild from. How can separation be anything other than the beginning of the end when it's like that? Even I would feel that there was no attraction there if that's all the contact I ever got from them - maybe that's her point.