Reelin' in the Years

[Rob1231]

Ugh. Your W is still waaaay off the deep end in MLC-Land. Mine did the same thing - surrounding herself with "wonderful new friends" (including OM) who were every bit as screwed-up, unhappy, and pathetic as she was. She won't be able to see it, but relationships (both friendships and A's) built by people like that don't last - they can't, because the people in those R's are, at heart, really selfish. The day will come when the new friends have to choose between putting themselves first and being there for your W - and that won't be a happy day for W.

All of that crap she is going through is outside of your control - both the supposedly good and the obviously bad. I agree, someday she'll probably look back at all the things she "learned about herself" and won't be so smug about all of it.

In the meantime, stay strong and take care of yourself and your kids. Time and Patience - as always - are your allies. Hang in there, Mark!