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W and i had a long talk last night, she said some hurtful things, like the tears from her are not for us they are for her, she is still dating OM who is still married himself and i think or i am told he is giving her the cold shoulder a bit, but she is acting like everything is good. In any case i thought over the weekend do i really know if i want this woman back right now, she has a lot of issues herself that she needs to work through so i am detaching and supporting her decision. We talked last night about working through the custody and helping her get on her feet without having a nasty dragout divorce. I suggested a separtation for now, but she says a D is more suitable. I still feel like this is not the woman i married its an alter ego or other personality i am dealing with, which actually makes it easier to deal with the situation. What do you guys think??? about this approach