I would not be too hasty about confronting him. Especially since you kind of "set him up".
I think speaking with a marriage counselor is a good idea. Have you read Divorce Busting or Divorce Remedy yet? If not go to the book store now if you can and get a copy.
Sorry you have to be here, but I am glad you found this site.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
