I think this is exactly the sort of thing missmyfriend was referring to in this thread If you don't read anything else, please read this. And there is nothing in there that says one should cling/hold on, not get a life and remain stuck.
Standing isn't still. Moving on is part of Standing and being Faithful to one's vows. If a person chooses to Stand down, yield to or begin divorce proceedings, that is there choice. But this thread implies (hopefully it was not the intention) that the other choice--to Stand, thus remaining Faithful to one's vows in Hopes their MLCer will return--is a bad idea.
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Sometimes, in the rarest cases, the marriage is restored.
Sure, in rare cases. But it's vital that people know that they are also restored in the commonnest of cases. Restoration is often the choice of the LBS and patience perseveres.
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This is your opportunity to discover who you really are again and I highly recommend it!
This is absolutely true. But it is not a possibility only if you Stand Down. It is vital for ALL here. It is the key to success on either pathway. True reconciliation is impossible if you do not use this oppportunity, but instead wallow in victim-pity.
Definitely Get A Life. But don't let anyone insist (suggesting is different) that you should Stand Down if it is not what you want.
