MoonDog, To a degree, I agree with you. However, that being said, most people here won't be able to do what you speak of until they find it in their own time. You can't make someone be ready to let it go for good. You can suggest it, as you have, but it won't be heard or felt. Not yet, anyway. Sometimes, in the rarest cases, the marriage is restored. See yellowrose's thread for verification. I think when one person is fortunate enough to have this happen, we all want to believe it can be the same for us. I am more realistic now than I was 2 years ago by knowing that it is not the norm. A lot of these MLC'ers never get their acts together enough to want to reconcile or have the ability to. Don't be surprised if you don't get a lot of positive feedback. Remember what forum this is... Good luck to you!
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
