Dating during sep:- you could try out the notion of a healing separation with her with groundrules. This seems to be tried and tested avenue which must have had results for some. You've already had a discussion bout finances and so other things could be included in a general way. Look at http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Alberti1.html
Goals for your W:- like above not sure you can set these as a prerequisite. You might be able to tell her bout the things you're going to work on and wonder if she's going to take the opportunity to do anything in particular. Actually, it might be too much of a stretch for her right now and all she'll want is calm and peace so don't be surprised if she's not looking forward to rollinig up her sleeves for 2 months of self-enlightenment. IMO she has to be left to get to that point herself. On the other hand, she'd be a rare person not to use the opportunity to take a look at things.
Readdress how I feel before I go one last time:- IMO this would be classic pursuing behaviour and might create in her mind an impression of you trying to gain the upper hand. I think you should think very very carefully about this.
Best of luck!
GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
