Sd - no apology needed, this place is here for a good vent!
Your post struck a chord with me ... recently i've dropped an old friend of 20 years. I was getting fed up with his judgemental and sometimes downright nasty view of the world and the people in it. For example, anything he didn't like was classed as stupid. he often decides he is in love with women and first becomes friends with them then suffiocates them with declarations of love then accuses them of leading him on. if we are out in a group and he is there I have to worry about who he will offend next. He sees all other men as competition. The guy isn't the best looking in town (in fact, he's rather ugly - looks like a bad version of the actor jake Busey) so I feel he'd be far better off trying to get a girlfriend with his wit and humour, which are fabulous, rather than browbeating her and threatening any male who comes within 20 yards of her.
I just got fed up of having to entertain him, apologise for him in group situations, and having to agree with him. (Belive me, I tried to disagree). So I've cut him off. I can't have people like that in my life anymore, I just can;t/ So jeff and SD I reckon I underestand how you feel and it was good to see it in writing.
Since DB'ing I see a lot of people who are going about things so badly. I worry that I will revert to that too. One of my pet hates is people who say "you should.....". ARGH!!!! i can't stand judgemental people now because that is exactly how I was and I brought a lot of unhappiness in my life. Once I stopped blaming external factors for my unhappiness and started to look into myself life got a LOT better.
Anyway ... I digress . SD glad you survived the weekend - maybe you should get badges or t-shirts done for you and your H ..."I survived the parents visit" and "I survived the in-laws visit" for him
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
