I can't believe you asked me if you gave TMI -lol. I am the queen of TMI. I think I'm about 3/4 right with the diagnosis I was going to give you. Really, I think the info I was looking for was more "how you would f*ck if you f*cked like you wanted to" but you pretty much made that clear as well as your current modus operandi. So far, my observations would be that you are naturally not very monkey sexually(which is not necessarily a bad thing because you are naturally quite lion- you got the testosterone but not the dopamine)and BB used to be monkey but not any more. Somebody has to bring the monkey to the party. What we need to figure out is how to get BB to feel like pulling on your ears again because that is obviously very monkey behavior because it annoyed you. I'll give it some thought.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver